My Hummingbird Cafe

These are times when women need the support of each other more than ever.  We are facing financial difficulties, Internet porn, sexual perversions and promiscuity that are paraded as normal, and our time is challenged by menial tasks that take us from our families.

We, as women, can help each other because of our natural inclination to feel the suffering in others and somehow console an aching spirit. This is what we need now.

Families are being attacked from all sides, when at work, school, and home through books, television programs, and socializing. It is impossible for family members to not be exposed to the negatives of our modern times. As a result, we need something that helps us manage the repercussions of our times.

Women are especially being attacked because they are the center of the family. The evil one can take down the family when he takes out the nurturer, the teacher of values, and the stability of the family.

Today, we see women being led down the path of vanity and self-centered compulsions instead of attending to their families. We’ve seen this problem too much lately. Women are spending more time away from home every day now, where she not only earns money but spends it as well on things that make her feel good.

• Regularly going out to lunch with friends
• Getting her hair and nails done regularly
• Buying make-up and other stuff that makes her look better
• Spends too much time shopping and socializing on the Internet

Women’s modern activities, as discussed above, are causing marriage and family sufferings. As a result, families are being pulled apart. It is sad to witness the consequences of all this, so please women, help each other keep from venturing out into the ways of the world and lose track of what is really important to us.

We cannot be intrusive on judgemental, but we need to be a support when asked. Sometimes we just have to be blunt like my sister did with me. I told her that something was wrong with me, “I don’t know why I am doing the things I am doing,” I said. The next words out of my mouth was, “It’s not Satan’s fault because he gets blamed for everything we do wrong. I am the one doing these things and I am responsible for them.”

When I told her what I was doing she said, “Why isn’t it Satan’s fault? Everything you are describing is rebelliousness. I’ve never known you to ever do anything rebellious so why are you doing them now? It’s not in your personality to be rebellious, the problem is that all of these things are your weakness that were used on you at once. This alerted your spirit to something being wrong but you didn’t know what or why. Now that you know these are your weak areas, watch yourself because you will see them slip in again from time to time.” She then gave me some very firm instructions that were right on target.

I had changed so much in a two week period that it scared me to think about how much farther I would have gone before I stopped myself. If I had not picked up on the feeling that something was wrong, would I have been able to turn things around soon enough before it destroyed my family? I know I would not still be married (45 years now) and our children would have gone down the tubes because they were making bad friends. I would have been too far gone to pay attention to their needs.

The point is that we are all subject to the ways of this world and can easily be enticed into things because we are human. We need a good friend, a good sister, and good neighbor to be bold when we need it. Had my sister not been bold and challenged me on it, I would not have recognized my folly or made any changes in the direction I was going.

We women need to stick together and be willing to listen when someone needs to talk. We need to remember that being supportive does not mean we tell them what to do or judge them. It means we listen, ask questions that help them find their way through the challenge and only when appropriate, be bold like my sister.

If you need someone to talk to, send me an email that will be kept personal. Send it to Judy@JudySherman.com.